Sexual satisfaction is at it's lowest for couples who have kids under five. Sleepless nights, changes to our bodies, identities and priorities mean that the passion of before can start to feel like a distant memory. But how can you retain a great sexual connection even when you have little time for sex? How can you make sure that you still feel like sexual partners not just strung out co-parents at the end of it all? This workshop is designed to help you take apart your sex life and put it back together in a way that will add to your relationship and sexual satisfaction over time using small changes that have big effects.
Course Curriculum
- Introduction to this workshop (2:49)
- Understanding why sex is important to you, your partner and your relationship right now (4:09)
- What if we don’t want the same thing? (3:19)
- Your sex life before kids- what was already in the mix? (1:50)
- Your sex life barometer- pre kids
- Why long term relationships can be bad for our sex lives (7:14)
- Why sex matters to us and our relationships (12:22)
- The impact of pregnancy and trying to conceive on your sex life (16:30)
- The impact of birth, birth trauma and birth injury (12:12)
- The first six months to a year- ‘Survival mode’ (8:51)
- The next 5 years- ‘our sex life is ruined!’ (12:11)
- The truth about desire and what it needs to thrive (10:32)
- Why sexual currency has the power to save your sex life no matter how much sex you're having (10:00)
- Making changes 1- How much sex are new parents having, anyway? (4:05)
- Making changes 2- Using what you’ve learned to improve your sex life (5:27)
- Making changes 3- When you have no time, small changes that make a big difference (15:22)
- Summary (1:16)
Meet the workshop facilitator
Dr Karen Gurney is a highly specialised clinical psychologist and a European Society of Sexual Medicine certified psychosexologist.
She is a recognised national expert in the theory and practice of therapy around all aspects of sexual wellbeing and function and wrote and pioneered one of the first online interventions translating principles of sex therapy into online modules 10 years ago.
She is currently Lead Psychologist in sexual health. gender and sexual difficulties for the NHS at Europe's busiest sexual health clinic - 56 Dean Street, as well as Director of The Havelock Clinic, an independent sexual problems service based on Harley Street and in The City of London. Dr Gurney has almost 20 years experience of providing therapy round all aspects of people's sex lives.
Dr Gurney has written for and been featured in publications such as The Times, Cosmopolitan and Refinery29, and provided expert opinions on TV and radio for the BBC. She is a TEDx speaker, having spoken about 'The surprising truth about desire' in 2020.
Dr Gurney's book, 'Mind The Gap: the truth about desire and how to futureproof your sex life' was out in 2020 and was a best seller .
Downloadable bite sized sessions available on
demand to fit into hectic lives
For couples of all sexualities, no matter how your kids arrived in your lives
